The following is a check list for examination of sexual abuse issues:

1. Lack of information.

2. Lack of physical affirmation.

3. Lack of right to privacy (no lock on bathroom door, no privacy of room).

4. Lack of information about values concerning sexuality.

5. Lack of information about puberty.

6. Giving misinformation (if you masturbate you go blind, nice girls don’t)

7. Too much information too early.

8. Romanticized relationship between parent figure and child (mom’s little man, daddy’s little lady)

9. Shamed for being male/female.

10. Enmeshed in adult sexual relationship or problems.

11. Sexualized by inappropriate adult sexual behavior (authority figure and/or parental figure).

12. Being belittled for/or having sexual feelings ignored.

13. Being belittled for/or having dating relationships ignored or overcontrolled.

14. Exposure to pornography.

15. Exposure to sexualized rage, jealousy and fighting.

16. Living with parents who repressed sexuality and physical affection.

17. Living with parents who overdo affection and sexual touch.

18. Living with parents involved in affairs.

19. Living with adults who are sexually addictive or acting out inappropriately sexually.

20. Being the substitute spouse or primary relationship for an adult.

21. Living with an adult who fantasizes or obsesses inappropriately.

22. Being the victim of covert and seductive glances and behavior.

23. Exposed to inappropriate nudity.

24. Living with voyeurism.

25. Used as a sexual shield or placed in the middle of a parental relationship.

26. Lack of sexual boundaries in family.

27. Being set up to act out a parent’s fantasy or image (dress seductively or be a little girl for dad, or be a lady killer for mom).

28. Being exposed to weird sex.

29. Being touched or massaged in a sexual manner.

30. Sexualized back rubs or hand holding.

31. Uncomfortable hugs (too close, too long, hands reach too far, or no choice)

32. Wet or lingering kiss.

33. Seductive dancing.

34. Uncomfortable sitting on a lap.

35. Being exposed to masturbation.

36. Genital touching or fondling--breast rubbed or fondled, penis rubbed or fondled.

37. Sexualized rage, anger, cruelty, abuse.

38. Stripping and sexual punishments.

39. Forcing or encouraging children to be sexual with each other.

40. Watching others have sex or be abused.

41. Sexual games.

42. Oral sex, anal sex, or intercourse.

43. Mutual masturbation or being used for masturbation.

44. Penetration with finger or objects.

45. Sexual Torture.

46. Rape.