Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror A workshop for Gay men on Sex, Love and Intimacy

Based on the book 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love

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This workshop is also based on the articles The Men In The Mirror: Understanding Gay Men and Their Porn, Covert Sexual Abuse of the Gay Male Culture, Sexual Addiction and Therapist Helps Gays Make Love Less Illusive

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Read an April 21, 2004 article about this workshop

We live in a sexually illiterate society. There is little to no permission to examine openly our sexuality in terms of orientation, behavior and fantasies. Most people, gay and straight alike, do not know if their sexual fantasies and/or sexual acts are healthy versus unhealthy. While gay men are more inclined to act out their sexual desires and fantasies more openly than their heterosexual counterparts, there still lies confusion as to what is positive and self-affirming and what is not.

There is also confusion about what is sex, what is love and what is intimacy. This workshop will explore the definitions of each of these and how to integrate them all together for gay men. Much of our culture as gay men, as well as for our heterosexual counterparts, are confused about how to make this integration. There is also confusion about how to have healthy sex, love and intimacy without having to have all of them combined. This workshop will help clarify all of this.

  • How do you define sex?
  • What is healthy versus unhealthy sex?
  • Do you understand the secret logic of your sexual fantasies?
  • What is your sexual shadow?
  • Are you sexually addicted, compulsive or just have a large sexual appetite?
  • Do you carry sexual shame?
  • How do you feel about your body? 
  • Do you want to improve your sex life? 
  • Are you getting the love you want in your relationship?
  • Are you keeping the love you find when you think you found Mr. Right?
  • What is your definition of love?
  • What is your definition of intimacy?

The goal of this workshop is to learn more about yourself as a gay man, develop tools and practices to live in integrity and be accountable, and to be able to identify your needs and communicate them effectively without your reactive mind getting in your way. It will also help you to develop strong relationships (both intimate and non-intimate).

These are just some of the questions we will be examining at the upcoming workshop. The workshop will include guided imagery, experiential exercises, communication exercises and lectures.

We will explore sexual behavior and fantasies with understanding, compassion, and without judgment.

This workshop is based on the article from the magazine, “In The Family”, The Men In The Mirror: Understanding Gay Men and Their Porn, Summer, 2002 by Joe Kort.

For more information regarding workshops, contact Joe at (248) 399-7317 or joekort@joekort.com

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