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Hello Kort's Korner Subscriber,
Thank you for being a subscriber to Kort's Korner. This is a follow up to my last ezine in which I forgot to add the lesbian and gay couple's workshop dates, times and location. Below you will find that information.
If you are unable to attend I am offering a teleclass for anyone interested in learning about Imago Relationship Therapy.
If you are unsure if these workshop are right for you I am offering mp3 podcasts which are audios at no cost for you to listen to and hear me discuss the strategies and principles for relationship growth using Imago Relationship Therapy.
If you are interested in these go to my products page.
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Learn How to Disarm--Not Strong Arm Your Partner in Relationship
By the time couples come into therapy together, they’ve lost a feeling of trust and safety in their relationship—usually because communication has broken down. Once this happens, repair attempts are unsuccessful. Moreover, most couples are not fighting about the real issue, so they keep hitting a dead end. Their arguments recycle themselves and never reach a resolution because the partners really need to address what’s under the surface.
As a couples therapist, I know that what the couple tells me their issue is and what they complain about in our first few sessions isn’t really the problem at all; an undertow keeps taking them under a surface that they cannot readily see. If the couple is willing to let me coach them, I can help them understand their real issue by helping them lose their defensiveness and practice the skills of intentional listening as well as intentional speaking--the first step to communication. In Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) we call it an Intentional Dialogue.
Once the couple can communicate safely, I help them explain their frustration, hurt, fears, and the associated childhood wound. In IRT, we say that behind every frustration there is a hurt, and behind every hurt there is a childhood wound. To be sure, not everything is attached to childhood, But you want to recognize why you’re having such a big reaction to your partner and what part your shadow plays in that. Otherwise, reacting from shadow, you will not be reasonable.
Once your partner can hear the part of your frustration that’s really about you and what you need and want, he’ll be more likely to listen and even want to change. But you both must know how to actively listen and speak to one another, or else change cannot take place.
The communication technique I teach I also call clearings--that is, things you need to clear out between you and your partner so that you can move forward and still stay connected. Otherwise these things will remain in your way, preventing contact from being loving and intimate.
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**NEW** Keeping the Love You Find Teleclass
Four week teleclass. After you register you will receive your call in number and pin number.
Click here to recieve your free introductory teleclass
Click here to register for the four-week teleclass workshop
ABOUT: Relationship class for straight, gay and lesbian singles and individuals in relationships.
This four-week workshop is appropriate for singles not currently in a relationship, who are tired of making the same mistakes over and over again and want to learn the secret to finding and keeping lasting love. This workshop is all about transforming the self. Often we are tempted to think the problem is "finding the right person." But this workshop is all about "becoming the right person."
This workshop is also an ideal follow-up workshop for those who have taken the couples workshop. Couples have gone through this workshop together after the couples workshop. It is a great opportunity to reflect on one's self within the relationship.
What you can expect from this workshop:
- SELF-DISCOVERY: Discover why you are always attracted to similar types of people. Understand the connection between the frustrations you've experienced in past relationships and your frustrations in childhood. Recognize your past wounds and the defenses which you use to protect yourself from being hurt again. These are the walls that prevent more intimate relationships.
- HEALING PAST WOUNDS: You will begin the process of healing past wounds and get a chance to "say goodbye" to former love partners. As you release old feelings you'll be able to look forward to the future and begin to get over your fears.
- NEW RELATIONSHIP SKILLS: You will get to practice effective skills to help you break the negative cycle of relating. You'll discover how you inadvertently sabotage relationships to protect yourself from unconscious fears and anticipated hurts. With the new tools learned at this workshop, you will be able to convert conflict into growth in your next relationship.
- CREATING A PLAN FOR PERSONAL CHANGE: By the end of the workshop you will know what you must change in yourself to Keep The Love You Find - and you'll create a step-by-step personal program to help you achieve your goals.
- MEET NEW PEOPLE WHO ARE ALSO INVOLVED IN PERSONAL GROWTH
- UNDERSTAND THE MYSTERY OF LOVE: Learn about the stages of love. Develop an understanding of romantic love, the power struggle and real love.
- RECOGNIZE THE ROLE OF SEX AND SEXUAL CHEMISTRY BETWEEN YOU AND A PARTNER: The role that sex plays in a relationship is important. Learn how it can help and how it can hurt your relationships.
___________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact Joe: joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317. Subscriber Self-Management: Joe Kort & Associates 
Lesbian and Gay Couples Workshop
October 18-19, 2008
Royal Oak, MI
I will be facilitating my IMAGO Relationship Therapy for lesbian and gay couples
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix was author of the two Best Sellers "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples," and "Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles." It integrates and extends the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral science and spiritual disciplines into a uniquely comprehensive and systemic theory of primary love relationships.
Click here for a pdf to register by mail
Click here to register online
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