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September, 2008

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About Joe Kort's Psychotherapy and Coaching Practice: New Audios, Videos and Handouts from Joe
Relationship & Sexual Addiction Classes, Teleclasses and Workshop Fall, 2008 dates
November 1, 2008 Presentation: Straight Guise: Treating Heterosexual Men Who Have Sex With Men
New Hallmark Cards for Gay Marriage
Documentary on sexually abused males "Boyhood Shadows"
Joe's Book Updates

1. About Joe Kort's Psychotherapy and Coaching Practice

Hello Kort's Korner Subscribers,

I am starting to do audios, videos and digital handouts on all the topics I teach in my workshops, therapy, classes which are listed below under my specialties. I receive hundreds of emails a week asking questions which have commonalities such as a few of these:

"How do I know if I am gay?"

"Will my relationship fail if we are not monogamous?"

"Why can't I find the right relationship?"

"What is a sexual addiction?"

"I think I am sexually anorexic how do I know"

I have done workshops, classes, psychotherapy and coaching on these questions for years and am going to begin putting my answers to these on audio files so you can download them to your computer and/or receive pdf's with the most common answers to these questions.

Do you have a question or topic you would like me to explore? If so please email me back and I will make sure I create an audio or handout about that topic if I can.

Thank you all for staying loyal Kort's Korner readers and I do hope that what I offer within these ezines is helpful to you.

Warmly, Joe

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JOE'S BLOGS and Other Websites:

Outside the Kort Room

Straight Guise

These blogs are about current events, books, workshops, articles, movies and anything related to my specialties within my private practice.

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Individual, Group and Couple's Psychotherapy

Telephone Coaching and Consultation

Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists

Frequently Asked Questions about hiring Joe Kort for his services

Joe Kort's areas of specialties are:

Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
Sexual Anorexia
Sexual Abuse
Straight men who have sex with men
Chemical Dependency
Imago Relationship Therapy
Monogamy/Non-monogamy Issues
Breakup Recovery
Coming Out Issues
Gay Affirmative Therapy
Depression and Anxiety Disorders

2. Upcoming Fall, 2008 Schedule of workshops, classes and teleclasses.

AS SEEN ON OPRAH!

I will be facilitating my IMAGO Relationship Therapy couples and singles workshops this fall for straight, lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals and couples.

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix was author of the two Best Sellers "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples," and "Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles." It integrates and extends the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral science and spiritual disciplines into a uniquely comprehensive and systemic theory of primary love relationships.

Click here to read more about IMAGO Relationship Therapy

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Joe's Fall, 2008 Workshops & Teleclasses Dates
Dec 6-7, 2008 Getting the Love You Want (Heterosexual Couples) ______________________________________________________________________________
Oct 18-19, 2008 Getting the Love You Want (Gay and Lesbian Couples) _______________________________________________________________________________
Sept 9 - Oct 14, 2008 (6 week class) Keeping the Love You Find (A Relationship Class for Gay, Lesbian and Straight Singles) __________________________________________________________________________________________________________
NEW! September 8, 2008 (Teleclass for men of all sexual and romantic orientations) 8-9PM EST Sex with the City: An introduction teleclass about Sexual Addiction for men. Sexual addiction and compulsivity is on the rise for men—and for women, particularly with the expanding internet bringing ease to sexual hookups and online porn. Because of sexual shame, people often are afraid to talk about their sexual acting out behaviors and clinicians are not sure what to do once the sexual behavior is reported. This workshop will help those struggling with whether or not they have a sexual addiction or not and accurately assess and get help. Participants will be learn what makes sexual behaviors an addiction and what to do to stop the behaviors. It will give direction to help men recover from out of control sexual behavior. Treatment planning often involves assessing the clients erotic mapping and ritualized sexual behavior. The secret logic of the sexual fantasy and behavior can provide the nonsexual map to recovery. Various modalities of therapy along with the most recent research of effective medications for this disorder will also be addressed.

3. Upcoming Talks on Straight Guise by Joe Kort, LMSW

AASECT Sponsored Talk for Mental Health Clinicians

DATE: November 1, 2008

COST: $40 (which includes 2 AASECT CE’s and 2 Michigan Social Work CE’s plus a continental
breakfast)

WHERE: Center for Sexual Health at University of Michigan Health Systems

Ann arbor, MI
East Ann Arbor Health Center
4260 Plymouth Road Ann
Arbor, MI 48109 just off the highway (us 23)

Straight Guise: Treating Heterosexual Men Who Have Sex With Men

1. Description of Training

When a male client reveals he fantasizes about having sex with men, is caught looking at online gay porn and in gay chat rooms, and possibly is having sex with men, the tendency is to label the client as gay or bisexual. However, for many of these men this is not about either. A variety of reasons exist as to why men seek other men for sex which are not about a gay identity.

Therapists, being politically correct, often believe the man is in denial about his homosexuality or bisexuality and move him in a direction toward coming out gay when--in fact--he is not. This presentation will discuss ways understanding the male client’s interest in sexual contact with men, and helping him decide what course of treatment is best for him.

3. Objectives for talk:

Understand the psychological meanings of the arousal template of the straight men who seek sex with men (MSM's) who are not gay or bisexual.
Learn to help the client communicate an understanding about his sexuality and to understand what the behavior means for him.
Address the fears, homophobia, anxieties and insecurities of these clients about their sexual behaviors and interest in engaging in sexual activity with other men.

For more information click here

4. Now on the Hallmark aisle: Gay marriage cards

I have been waiting what seems like my whole life for this!

Hallmark if finally offering cards for lesbians and gays. They also started making coming out cards for National Coming Out Day October 11.

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Hallmark, seeing a new market after California ruling, rolls out gay marriage greeting cards
By Sarah Skidmore, AP Business Writer new market after California ruling, rolls out gay marriage greeting cards

PORTLAND, Ore. (AP) -- Most states don't recognize gay marriage -- but now Hallmark does.
The nation's largest greeting card company is rolling out same-sex wedding cards -- featuring two tuxedos, overlapping hearts or intertwined flowers, with best wishes inside. "Two hearts. One promise," one says.

Hallmark added the cards after California joined Massachusetts as the only U.S. states with legal gay marriage. A handful of other states have recognized same-sex civil unions.

The language inside the cards is neutral, with no mention of wedding or marriage, making them also suitable for a commitment ceremony. Hallmark says the move is a response to consumer demand, not any political pressure.

To read the entire story click here and post your responses to this on my blog if you like.

5. Boyhood Shadows Documentary Film on sexually abused males

A documentary titled is soon to be released about males who have been sexually abused as children.

Monterey County Rape Crisis Center has created a full length, groundbreaking documentary on Male Sexual Victimization. A website for the film is up, the film has been submitted to Sundance and other big film festivals.

Watch the trailer it will make you cry. It had that effect on me! This is a very important and silenced topic that the producers are bringing forward!

For more information click here

6. Joe's Book Updates

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

Published by Alyson Books, 2003

Introduction What Works? And What Doesn't?
                        (click here to read an excerpt of the Introduction)
Chapter 1     Take Charge of Their Own Lives
Chapter 2    Affirm Themselves by Coming Out
Chapter 3     Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives
Chapter 4    "Graduate" From Delayed Adolescence
Chapter 5    Avoid-or Overcome-Sexual Addiction
Chapter 6     Learn from Successful Mentors Who've Been There, Done That
Chapter 7    Take Advantage of "Therapy Workouts"
Chapter 8     Achieve-and Maintain-Rewarding Relationships
Chapter 9     Understand the Stages of Loves
Chapter 10 Commit to Their Partner

Foreign translations of Joe's First Book "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives"

In 2004 it was translated into German

In 2005 it was translated into Spanish.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love

Published by Alyson Books, 2006

Introduction Start Your Hero's Journey and Let Your Initiation Begin!

Chapter 1      Live in Integrity and Be Accountable to Yourself and Your Partner
Chapter 2     Become the Man You Were Meant to Be
Chapter 3      Discover How What You Hate Can Help You Love
Chapter 4      Go from a Gay Boy to a Gay Man with Your Father
Chapter 5      Recognize the Difference Between Mommy Nearest,
                        Mommy Dearest, and Mommy Queerest
Chapter 6      Learn How to Disarm -- Not Strong-arm -- Your Partner in Communication
Chapter 7      Know Your Sexual Shadow
                        (click here to read an excerpt from chapter 7)
Chapter 8      Understand the New Mixed Marriage: When Three's a Crowd
Chapter 9      How to Call It Quits Without Being a Quitter
Chapter 10    Bring Your Own Shadow

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide

Published by WW Norton Books, 2008

Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide

Chapter 1    Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gays: Setting the Gay Record--Straight!
Chapter 2    What is Gay Affirmative Therapy?
Chapter 3.    Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 4.    Covert Cultural Sexual Abuse
Chapter 5.    Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 6.    Developmental Insults
Chapter 7.    Coming Out
Chapter 8.    Helping Families of Lesbians and Gays
Chapter 9.    Lesbian and Gay Sexuality
Chapter 10.  Working with Today's Lesbian and Gay Couples
Chapter 11.  The New Mixed Marriage: One Lesbian or Gay Spouse and One Straight
Chapter 12.  Gay Affirmative Therapy Principles in Clinical Practice
Chapter 13.  Establishing a Differential Diagnosis.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts

Published by Gentle Press, 2008

Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts

$16.95

BUY THE BOOK

This book contains a chapter by psychotherapist Joe Kort on straight men who have sex with men in heterosexual marriages.

Straight Guise: Is My Partner Gay?
By Joe Kort, LMSW

It offers the female partners and spouses a guide and insight into what to do and how to handle these types of situations.

For more information Click Here

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Autographed Books

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If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact Joe: joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.

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