1. About Joe Kort's Psychotherapy and Coaching Practice
2. Upcoming IMAGO Relationship Therapy Couples and Singles Workshop Dates Fall 2008 
3. Book Review: Are You Two Guys Brothers? By Brian McNaught 
4. The Villiage Voice Newspaper's review of www.straightguise.com
5. **NEW** book for kids: "Uncle Bobby's Wedding"
6. Joe's Book Updates: LATEST REVIEW OF Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician

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These blogs are about current events, books, workshops, articles, movies and anything related to my specialties within my private practice.

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Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists 

Frequently Asked Questions about hiring Joe Kort for his services

Joe Kort's areas of specialties are:

• Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
• Sexual Anorexia 
• Sexual Abuse
• Straight men who have sex with men
• Chemical Dependency
• Imago Relationship Therapy
• Monogamy/Non-monogamy Issues 
• Breakup Recovery
• Coming Out Issues
• Gay Affirmative Therapy
• Depression and Anxiety Disorders

AS SEEN ON OPRAH!

I will be facilitating my IMAGO Relationship Therapy couples and singles workshops this fall for straight, lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals and couples.

Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix was author of the two Best Sellers "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples," and "Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles." It integrates and extends the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral science and spiritual disciplines into a uniquely comprehensive and systemic theory of primary love relationships.

Click here to read more about IMAGO Relationship Therapy

Joe's Fall, 2008 Workshops & Teleclasses Dates

Dec 6-7, 2008 Getting the Love You Want (Heterosexual Couples)

Oct 18-19, 2008 Getting the Love You Want (Gay and Lesbian Couples)

Sept 9 - Oct 14, 2008 (6 week class) Keeping the Love You Find (A Relationship Class for Gay, Lesbian and Straight Singles)

Author and sex educator Brian McNaught has been someone to whom I have looked up to throughout my gay adulthood. He is a man with integrity, passion for what he does, and a mission to teach the world about gay issues making it safer to be gay and lesbian. I have also admired his openness, honesty and genuineness as a person and gay man. This book adds another level to all of this.

We all need someone to turn to who has been there before us to give us guidance. That is the role often of parents, grandparents and aunts and uncles.

However in the gay culture we often don't have that and with this book you now do!

McNaught talks about his life with his partner, his suicide attempt, his sexual life including some childhood sexual abuse, and how he managed his successes as a gay men in the 1970's and how he feels about gay life today.

We need more men like Brian McNaught who are willing to talk openly, freely and frankly about being a gay man.

I first heard of Brian McNaught in 1993 when PBS was regularly running his talk, Homophobia in the Workplace. 
 
I was memorized by the casual way he talked about being gay and the way he taught his beliefs to his audience. I was particularly interested in the guided imagery he used in his presentation in which he asks people to imagine the entire world to be gay but that you are straight. He walks the listener through what it would be like to be a child and for the world around you to be gay when you are straight. He takes you into your first day of high school, your first date, kiss and sexual experience with someone of the same gender.

 After the guided imagery he asks people what it was like to go through the visualization to which people say, “scary”, “lonely”, “frightening”, and more. He then points out how lesbians and gays go through this very thing while growing up and calls it a form of sexual abuse. He asks folks to consider the profound trauma and abuse that would be inflicted on heterosexual young people if there were forced to date, have their first kiss and sexual experience with someone of the same gender.

This guided imagery is highly sought after particularly after I use it in my gay affirmative talks so I published it in my latest book, “Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician”. It can also be found in Brian McNaught’s book, Gays in the Workplace.

In his current book he admits that he was sexually abused by his father but had not been public about this lest others think he was gay because of it. On page 52 of, Are You Guys Brothers? He writes:

“As a gay man raised Catholic, I would argue that I have been sexually abused far more effectively by Pope Benedict XVI, also known as Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger, than I ever was by my father, and that the impact of his carefully chosen, gratuitously hostile, erroneous, and dehumanizing words about my sexuality have left far deeper and more significant scars than the inappropriate touch engaged in by my father. I’d suggest that this is true for gay men and women throughout the world. But who would dare charge the Pope with the crime of sexual abuse?

I take McNaught’s thinking further and call it “covert cultural sexual abuse” which you can view here as well as address it throughout Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician.

Thank you Brian!

Read the entire article here 

An article posted on Yahoonews.com July 16, 2008 talks about a new storybook on a child's fear of losing a favorite uncle to another is challenged by a mom unhappy that the adults in question are both males.

The book is titled, "Uncle Bobby's Wedding" by Sarah S. Brennen.

I applaud the librarian in Colorado , Jamie LaRue who supported keeping a book for children in the library about two gay uncles getting married! I have longed for a book to teach my niece and nephews about my marriage to my partner and finally there is a book that is about my life and not only about a gay mother or father.

If you go to his blog, My Lil' Blog, you will see the overwhelming positive response he has recieved to his letter to the mother who felt it should be removed.

And a special thank you to the author for making a book for gay uncles and their nieces and nephews!

Foreign translations of Joe's First Book

"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" was originally published in 2003. In 2004 it was translated into German and in 2005 it was translated into Spanish.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love




Alyson Books, 2006

Introduction   Start Your Hero's Journey and Let Your Initiation Begin!

Chapter 1      Live in Integrity and Be Accountable to Yourself and Your Partner
Chapter 2      Become the Man You Were Meant to Be
Chapter 3      Discover How What You Hate Can Help You Love
Chapter 4      Go from a Gay Boy to a Gay Man with Your Father
Chapter 5      Recognize the Difference Between Mommy Nearest,    
                        Mommy Dearest, and Mommy Queerest
Chapter 6      Learn How to Disarm -- Not Strong-arm -- Your Partner in Communication
Chapter 7      Know Your Sexual Shadow
                        (click here to read an excerpt from chapter 7)
Chapter 8      Understand the New Mixed Marriage: When Three's a Crowd
Chapter 9      How to Call It Quits Without Being a Quitter
Chapter 10    Bring Your Own Shadow

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

WW Norton Books, 2008

Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide

Chapter 1    Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gays: Setting the Gay Record--Straight!
Chapter 2    What is Gay Affirmative Therapy?
Chapter 3.    Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 4.    Covert Cultural Sexual Abuse
Chapter 5.    Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 6.    Developmental Insults
Chapter 7.    Coming Out
Chapter 8.    Helping Families of Lesbians and Gays
Chapter 9.    Lesbian and Gay Sexuality
Chapter 10.  Working with Today's Lesbian and Gay Couples
Chapter 11.  The New Mixed Marriage: One Lesbian or Gay Spouse and One Straight
Chapter 12.  Gay Affirmative Therapy Principles in Clinical Practice
Chapter 13.  Establishing a Differential Diagnosis.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books

$16.95

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This book contains a chapter by psychotherapist Joe Kort on straight men who have sex with men in heterosexual marriages.

Straight Guise: Is My Partner Gay?
By Joe Kort, LMSW

It offers the female partners and spouses a guide and insight into what to do and how to handle these types of situations.

For more information Click Here

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