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Kort's Korner | Warning. The new "Get Smart" movie is "disgusting".
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- About Joe Kort's Psychotherapy and Coaching Practice
- Listen to the podcast of NPR news show On Point: Inside Gay Unions.
- Warning! The new "Get Smart" movie is "disgusting".
- IMAGO Relationship Therapy Couples and Singles Workshop Dates
- Lady Sitters: Rent a gay (HUMOR)
- Joe's Book Updates
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1. About Joe Kort & Associates |
JOE'S BLOGS
Outside the Kort Room
Straight Guise
These blogs are about current events, books, workshops, articles, movies and anything related to my specialties within my private practice.
Individual, Group and Couple's Psychotherapy
Telephone Coaching and Consultation
Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists
Frequently Asked Questions about hiring Joe Kort for his services
Joe Kort's areas of specialties are:
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Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
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Sexual Anorexia
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Sexual Abuse
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Straight men who have sex with men
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Chemical Dependency
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Imago Relationship Therapy
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Monogamy/Non-monogamy Issues
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Breakup Recovery
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Coming Out Issues
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Gay Affirmative Therapy
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Depression and Anxiety Disorders
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2. On Point: Inside Gay Unions |
Joe Kort was a guest on June 18, 2008 on Boston's NPR news show On Point: Inside Gay Unions. Click here to listen to the show.
(When you get to the page click on the top on the Windows media player or Real player).
By host Tom Ashbrook
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It may be beautiful, but everybody knows marriage isn't easy.
Who pays the bills? Who works or stays home? Who unloads the dishwasher?
So what about gay marriage? Gay partnerships?
June 17, 2008, California was ringing with gay wedding bells, on its first full day of legal gay marriage. But gay marriage is not new anymore. Civil unions and long-term gay commitments have been around even longer.
So how does it work, day to day, down in the weeds, when it's not "his and hers" but "his and his" or "hers and hers"?
This hour, On Point: Gay marriage, and how it actually works.
Experts on the show are:
· Esther Rothblum, professor of women's studies at San Diego State University, and co-author of a new study on same-sex couples in Vermont.
· Nanette Gartrell, professor of psychiatry at University of California at San Francisco. She has been researching lesbian families for 22 years.
· Joe Kort, a practicing psychotherapist who runs gay men's therapy and sexuality groups. He is author of "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives."
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3. Warning. The new "Get Smart" movie is "disgusting". |
I took my nephews (between the ages of 5 and 11) to see the new Get Smart movie. It was funny and very good especially if you enjoy slapstick comedy. They kept it much the same as the original television show and I thought they did a great job.
While watching the movie there is a scene in which Maxwell Smart (played by Steve Carell) kisses another male on the lips in slow motion. During this scene a man with three children (between the ages of 14 and 8) behind us contemptuously says out loud, “Disgusting!”
I was thrown back to 1978 watching the movie Midnight Express where two naked men in a shower scene kiss each other. I was a gay 15-years-old and was excited and aroused by the scene having never viewed anything like it before. The audience shouted anti-gay slurs screaming epithets like, “gross”, “fags” and then clapped when one of the men pushed the other away. The message sent to me at that time was, “never tell a soul about your homosexual interests or people will insult you”.
Back to the movie, Get Smart, 30 years later there is at least now only one man in the audience making a shaming and negative remark about two men kissing.
I sat there angry and hurt not knowing what to do. Had I not been there with my nephews I would have turned to him said something about this homophobic statement. But I didn’t.
When we got back into my car I told my nephews that the comment made by the man behind me hurt me and angered me. My 8-year-old nephew said, “Because you are gay?” and I answered, “Yes”. He then said something very wise, “But maybe to people who are not gay it is disgusting to see two men kissing”. I responded by saying, “Maybe so but people should not say that out loud you hurt people’s feelings. I kiss Mike like that and it is not disgusting to me”. He agreed.
I was glad I said something to my nephews so they do not think that what that man said in the movie was okay. What about this man’s children and the other children in the audience? Homophobic messages of hate and contempt go into the minds and psyches of children and perpetuate anti-gay beliefs.
What would you have done about this at a movie theatre? Let me know on my blog by clicking on Outside the Kort Room.
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4. IMAGO Relationship Therapy Couples and Singles Workshop FALL, 2008 Dates |
AS SEEN ON OPRAH!
I will be facilitating my IMAGO Relationship Therapy couples and singles workshops this fall for straight, lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals and couples.
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) is a form of relationship therapy innovated by Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. Dr. Hendrix was author of the two Best Sellers "Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples," and "Keeping the Love You Find: A Guide for Singles." It integrates and extends the insights of the major western psychological systems, behavioral science and spiritual disciplines into a uniquely comprehensive and systemic theory of primary love relationships.
Click here to read more about IMAGO Relationship Therapy
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5. Lady Sitters: Rent a gay (HUMOR) |
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There is a very funny video on the internet called Lady Sitters which provides some good humor!
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6. Joe's Book Updates |
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10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives
Alyson Books, 2003
Introduction What Works? And What Doesn't?
(click here to read an excerpt of the Introduction)
Chapter 1 Take Charge of Their Own Lives
Chapter 2 Affirm Themselves by Coming Out
Chapter 3 Resolve Differences With Parents and Relatives
Chapter 4 "Graduate" From Delayed Adolescence
Chapter 5 Avoid-or Overcome-Sexual Addiction
Chapter 6 Learn from Successful Mentors Who've Been There, Done That
Chapter 7 Take Advantage of "Therapy Workouts"
Chapter 8 Achieve-and Maintain-Rewarding Relationships
Chapter 9 Understand the Stages of Loves
Chapter 10 Commit to Their Partner
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Foreign translations of Joe's First Book
"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" was originally published in 2003. In 2004 it was translated into German and in 2005 it was translated into Spanish.
Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books
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10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love
Alyson Books, 2006
Introduction Start Your Hero’s Journey and Let Your Initiation Begin!
Chapter 1 Live in Integrity and Be Accountable to Yourself and Your Partner
Chapter 2 Become the Man You Were Meant to Be
Chapter 3 Discover How What You Hate Can Help You Love
Chapter 4 Go from a Gay Boy to a Gay Man with Your Father
Chapter 5 Recognize the Difference Between Mommy Nearest,
Mommy Dearest, and Mommy Queerest
Chapter 6 Learn How to Disarm—Not Strong-arm—Your Partner in Communication
Chapter 7 Know Your Sexual Shadow
(click here to read an excerpt from chapter 7)
Chapter 8 Understand the New Mixed Marriage: When Three’s a Crowd
Chapter 9 How to Call It Quits Without Being a Quitter
Chapter 10 Bring Your Own Shadow
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Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide
WW Norton Books, 2008
Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide
Chapter 1 Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gays: Setting the Gay Record--Straight!
Chapter 2 What is Gay Affirmative Therapy?
Chapter 3. Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 4. Covert Cultural Sexual Abuse
Chapter 5. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder from Growing Up Lesbian or Gay
Chapter 6. Developmental Insults
Chapter 7. Coming Out
Chapter 8. Helping Families of Lesbians and Gays
Chapter 9. Lesbian and Gay Sexuality
Chapter 10. Working with Today's Lesbian and Gay Couples
Chapter 11. The New Mixed Marriage: One Lesbian or Gay Spouse and One Straight
Chapter 12. Gay Affirmative Therapy Principles in Clinical Practice
Chapter 13. Establishing a Differential Diagnosis.
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Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Parnters of Sex Addicts
A Gentle Press, 2008
Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
ISBN: 0-9774-4006-9
$16.95
BUY THE BOOK
This book contains a chapter by psychotherapist Joe Kort on straight men who have sex with men in heterosexual marriages.
Straight Guise: Is My Partner Gay?
By Joe Kort, LMSW
It offers the female partners and spouses a guide and insight into what to do and how to handle these types of situations.
For more information Click Here
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Autographed Books
You can purchase an autographed copy of Joe's books by using a credit card or sending a check, money order by clicking here.
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If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact me at joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.
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