Joe Kort & Associates Kort’s Korner Newsletter
In This Issue: March 2007

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    IN THIS ISSUE OF KORT'S KORNER:

    1. About Joe Kort's Private Practice: Therapy/Life Coaching/Workshops
    2. Joe's 2008 Workshop & Teleclass Dates!
    3. New book for partners of sex addicts: MENDING A SHATTERED HEART
    4. Presentations in Washington, DC
    5. Joe's new book, "Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician" is HEEEEEEERE!
    6. Joe's Book Update

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News at Joe Kort & Associates, PC
Hello Everyone,

This is a big month for me as I have two books out at the same time. First, my book with WW Norton, "Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide" is out now and available online at www.norton.com and www.amazon.com.

Also I contributed a chapter to a new book for partner's of sex addicts called, "Mending a Shattered Heart" edited by Stephanie Carnes.

I am also starting something new called Teleclasses which are becoming increasingly popular for those who have busy lives and cannot physically attend classes and workshops.

My plan this year is to offer teleclasses for gays and lesbian on relationships, straight men who have sex with men who are not gay and struggle with their sexual behaviors, sexually addicted males and trainings for therapists who work with lesbians and gay men.

Warmly, Joe Kort

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Joe's Blogs

Gay Affirmative Therapy

Straight Guise.

These blogs are about current events, books, workshops, articles, movies and anything related to my specialties within my private practice.
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INDIVIDUAL COUPLES GROUPS LIFE-COACHING PSYCHOTHERAPY

Joe Kort's areas of expertise for individuals and couples are:

Individual, Group and Couple's Psychotherapy

Telephone Coaching and Consultation

Clinical Consulting and Supervision Services for Psychotherapists

Frequently Asked Questions about hiring Joe Kort for his services


Joe Kort's areas of specialties are:

Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity
Sexual Anorexia
Sexual Abuse
Straight men who have sex with men
Erotic Intelligence
Chemical Dependency
Imago Relationship Therapy
Monogamy/Nonmonogamy Issues
Breakup Recovery
Coming Out Issues
Gay Affirmative Therapy
Depression and Anxiety Disorders




2008 Workshop/TELECLASS Dates
I am offering Telephone Teleclasses for those who want to learn about the stages of adult love relationships.

You will phone in at 8PM EST and hear a lecture on relationships and be able to ask questions and get answers on how to find and keep the love you want!

We will be looking at the three stages:

Romantic Love, The Power Struggle and Real Love

These stages of love are supposed to happen and are supposed to end. You will learnhow to navigate through them.

Below is the explanation of the classes and a list of Joe Kort’s other workshops in Royal Oak, MI for 2008 for:

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Uncovering the Secret Stages of Love
(For Gay men and Lesbian singles and couples)

*FREE* INTRODUCTORY TELECLASS

February 26, 2008

8-9PM EST

This free hour long teleclass on Feb 26, 2008 will be a lecture focusing on the principals and tools of IMAGO Relationship Therapy developed by Dr. Harville Hendrix. The lecture will teach the concepts and tools of IMAGO Relationship Therapy which is a specialized program to help couples and singles improve their relationships by helping couples communicate more effectively and helping singles prepare for healthier relationships.

IMAGO Relationship therapy is a specialized program which helps solve the mystery of why we are romantically attracted to the people we are drawn to, what happens that we get "stuck" in a power struggle with this person and how to resolve the conflict in a healthy, mature and effective manner.

These tools also help you obtain more effective ways of relating to others in your life such as family, co-workers and friends. Come and join us and learn the truth about love!

For more information and to register go to FREE TELECLASS

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Following the *FREE* Teleclass there will be the option to continue in a FOUR WEEK TELECLASS

Uncovering the Secret Stages of Love
FOUR WEEK TELECLASS
March 5, 12, 19 & 26, 2008
Every Wednesdays at 3PM EST

This 4 week class follows the free lecture if you are interested in registering and learning more about Imago Relationship Therapy. The class will expand on the points made in the lecture and allow for discussion to personalize the learning’s to yourself on the telephone bridge line.

The class will help couples learn why they get into the power struggle and how to end it with effective communication skills. Singles will learn why they are attracted to the same types of individuals over and over and how to stop the cycle and find the right partner.

We will also explore the unique problems these couples face in relationship and how to resolve them

Learning Objectives for this 4 week class:

 Learn to solve the mystery of attraction between partners in a relationship
 Identify 3 stages of love: Romantic Love / Power Struggle / Real Love
 Learn effective communication skills to help couples resolve conflict and create more intimacy.
 Identify internalized homophobia in couples and how to minimize to increase healthy relating.

To register, click here.
After you register for each teleclass, you will receive a welcome email and bridge line information to access the calls. Each teleclass program meets at the same time, for an hour each time, for four consecutive weeks.

For more information and to register go to Uncovering the Secret Stages of Love
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What is a telephone bridge line?


A telephone bridge line is a central calling place where each participant phones in. Joe Kort will lead the class and do some lecturing followed by answers, questions and discussion by the participants.

You will have the opportunity to participate as much or as little as you want and your identity will remain completely anonymous to other participants.

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EACH WORKSHOP BELOW IS HELD AT JOE KORT'S OFFICE


March 1-2, 2008

Heterosexual Couples
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April 19-20, 2008

Lesbian and Gay Male Couples
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April 22-May 27, 2008

Relationship Class Tuesdays 8-10PM (Straight, Gay and Lesbian Singles and Individuals)
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June 21-22, 2008

Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror Workshop for Gay/Bisexual Men

For More information on how to register for these workshops go to Joe Kort's Workshops and Teleclasses






Mending a Shattered Heart
Mending A Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
ISBN: 0-9774-4006-9

$16.95

www.gentlepath.com

This book contains a chapter by psychotherapist Joe Kort on straight men who have sex with men in heterosexual marriages.

Straight Guise: Is My Partner Gay?
By Joe Kort, LMSW

It offers the female partners and spouses a guide and insight into what to do and how to handle these types of situations.

The Chapter is titled:

Straight Guise: Is My Partner Gay?

For more information Click Here





Upcoming Trainings and Presentations

Psychotherapy Networker Symposium East

March 13th - 16th, 2008
Omni Shoreham Hotel - Washington, DC

Psychotherapy Networker Symposium

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Unfree To Be Me: Preventing and Healing the Abuse of Gay Youth


Many therapists ask, “How can you tell if a child or teenager is gay or lesbian?” There is no rule of thumb nor any scientific literature that claims to know for sure. But the gay clients in your office were once gay children and teenager--and they will tell you that for sure. The trauma done to the neglect and abuse of these children is profound. Therapists have an opportunity to help these children and their families to reduce the amount of psychological damage that is done through neglect, bullying and lack of acceptance.

This workshop will focus on how to address children and teenagers who self-identify as gay or lesbian and their families.

Learning Objectives:

1. Identity ways to help gay and lesbian children and teenagers.

2. Address therapist's anxiety around how to ask and address a child/teenager's homosexuality.

3. Learn ways to help parents cope with having a gay child as well as helping the child cope with unaccepting parents.

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When Gay Guise Happens to Straight Marriages

When a male spouse in a heterosexual marriage reveals he fantasizes about having sex with men, is caught looking at online gay porn and in gay chat rooms, and possibly is having sex with men, women--and these men--often worry that he is gay and that the marriage needs to end. However, for many of these men this is not about gayness. A variety of reasons exist as to why men seek other men for sexhave sex with another man which are not about a gay identity. Some of these men wish to engage in sexual contact with their wives which she will not do. He believes his sexual contact with men is "not cheating". Therapists, being politically correct, often believe the man is in denial about his homosexuality and move him in a direction toward coming out gay when--in fact--he is not.

In this workshop, we'll discuss ways of dealing with the reactivity of the "betrayed" wife, confronting our own and the couple's homophobia, understand the male's interest in sexual contact with men, and helping the couple decide what course is best for them.

1. Understand the psychological meaning of the arousal template of the men who seek sex with men (MSM's) who are not gay or bisexual.

2. Learn to help the couple communicate in non-reactive ways about sexuality and to understand what the behavior means and how it impacts the marriage.

3. Address the fears, anxieties and insecurities of these wives about her husband's sexual interests and how to help her listen effectively to him without it being personalized.





Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide is HERE!

Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician:
The Essential Guide

PUBLISHED BY: WW Norton Books

The FIRST BOOK for helping straight clinicians work with Gays and Lesbians

IT'S HEEEEERE!!!

More about the book at GayAffirmativeTherapy.com

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This book will offer skills and information to straight therapist working with gay, bisexual and lesbian clients. It is not enough to be gay friendly. It is crucial that therapists be armed with the facts and information to do effective work with their gay, lesbian and bisexual clients.

It is based on my work with Gay and Lesbian clients, my own personal journey as a gay male and psychotherapist of 25 years, along with the information I teach at Wayne State University's School of Social Work on Lesbian and Gay Studies

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Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician
BOOK ENDORSEMENTS

“I encourage all therapists worth their salt to read this brilliant and important book, whether or not they treat gays and lesbians. While it is theoretically sound and clinically instructive, the chief value of this book is its humanization of therapy, challenging us all to face our demons and accept the fact of difference. It is essentially about therapeutic justice. I hope this book gets the visibility it deserves.”

—Harville Hendrix, PhD, cofounder of Imago Relationship Therapy, and author of Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship By Letting Yourself Be Loved
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“This book is the essential guide for the straight therapist working with gay and lesbian clients. Avoiding politically correct sermonizing, Kort brings together clinically relevant research while challenging the attitudes and common myths that can get in the way of effective therapy. Refreshingly direct and clinically practical, this is one of the most readable and nuanced books about therapy I’ve seen in a long time.”
—Jette Simon, Clinical Psychologist and Director, The Washington D.C. Training Institute for Couples Therapy
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Joe Kort fills a huge gap in the training of clinicians. In an informative and non-judgemental way he covers the wide range of therapeutic scenarios and guides the reader through the subtleties of treating Gays and Lesbians. An important read for therapists-in-training as well as clinicians working with Gay and Lesbian clients.
—Laura Berman, LCSW, PhD, author of Passion Prescription: 10
weeks to your best sex ever


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From WW Norton Books Website


It has been over three decades since the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality as a category of deviant behavior from the DSM. Same-sex marriage is recognized in certain states, gay-straight alliances are springing up in high schools across the country, and major religious denominations are embracing gay clergy. Yet despite the sea change of attitudes toward homosexuality, many well-meaning straight therapists are still at a loss as to how to effectively counsel their gay and lesbian clients.

This book will offer straight therapists the tools they need to counsel gay and lesbian clients effectively.

This book presents principles of gay affirmative therapy (GAT). GAT is not a specific system of doing therapy but rather a framework for clinicians to approach work with gay and lesbian clients. Some of the fundamental principles of GAT include: understanding and combating heterosexism; recognizing heterosexual privilege where it exists—institutionally, legally, and societally; and understanding and combating your own homophobia—and that of your clients. In general, GAT explores the trauma, shame, alienation, isolation, and neglect that occur to lesbians and gays as children.

This book also explains what GAT is not. GAT does not mean that therapists blame homophobia for everything and overlook mental and emotional problems. It does not de-emphasize emotional disorders and avoid examining any pathology. It does not explain and eradicate all the problems faced by gays and lesbians.

Does this seem confusing? Then you’re on the right track! As therapists, your responsibility is to be armed with all the up-to-date information. Knowing all the ways problems can arise, you can then assess with clients—and with their help—what applies and what doesn’t. This book provides concrete guidelines for getting to the heart of the matter with clients. It will help you examine your own imprinted heterosexism and develop comfortable, appreciative feelings about homosexuality so you can successfully work with gay clients. It will help you screen yourself for any covert homophobia and it will help you approach your work with gay and lesbian clients in a manner most likely to be successful.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

1 Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gays: Setting
the Gay Record—Straight!

2. What Is Gay Affirmative Therapy?

3. Growing Up Lesbian or Gay

4. Covert Cultural Sexual Abuse

5. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder From Growing
Up Lesbian or Gay

6. Developmental Insults

7. Coming Out

8. Helping Families of Lesbians and Gays

9. Lesbian and Gay Sexuality

10. Working With Today’s Lesbian and Gay Couples

11. The New Mixed Marriage: One Lesbian or Gay
Spouse and One Straight

12. Gay Affirmative Therapy Principles in Clinical
Practice: Establishing a Differential Diagnosis

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More about the book at GayAffirmativeTherapy.com

To order click here >>> "Gay Affirmative Therapy for the Straight Clinician: The Essential Guide" by Joe Kort, MSW, LMSW



Joe Kort's Book Updates

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives

10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love

Both published by Alyson Books, New York.
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Foreign translations of Joe's First Book


"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" was originally published in 2003. In 2004 it was translated into German and in 2005 it was translated into Spanish.

Each of these books can be ordered at Joe's Books
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Click on the images of the books to purchase Joe's two published books at Joe's library .
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Autographed Books

You can purchase an autographed copy of Joe's books by using a credit card or sending a check, money order to

Joe Kort, LMSW, 25600 Woodward Ave., Suite 218, Royal Oak, MI 48067

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If you want to book a signing or workshop anywhere in your area please feel free to contact me at joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.








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