1. "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love" Available Now!

2. Reclaiming The Man In The Mirror Workshop April 9-14, 2006

3. The Sexually Addicted Couple Training January 20, 2006

4. Lesbian and Gay IMAGO Couples Workshop May 5-7, 2006

5. Uncover and Recover your SEXUAL SHADOW

6. "10 Smart Things" Book Update for January

"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love" is finally here! If you wish to purchase this book click here alyson.com or amazon.com

This is a men's book. The men in this book happen to be gay. It is about going from a gay boy to a gay man. Relationships are a necessary vehicle for this process.

Coming out as gay men and entering adult love relationships is truly a Hero's Journey.

Let your initiation begin TODAY!
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From Alyson Publishing:

Do you always end up with Mr. Wrong? Are you constantly dissatisfied with your intimate relationships? Has the passion between you and your partner fizzled after just a few months? In his groundbreaking new work, best-selling author and gay-affirmative therapist Joe Kort reveals his own Top Ten list on how you can make the best possible choices in finding and keeping a partner. Among them:

Introduction: Start Your Hero’s Journey and Let Your Initiation
Begin!

Chapter 1: Live in Integrity and Be Accountable to Yourself and
Your Partner

Chapter 2: Become the Man You Were Meant to Be

Chapter 3: Discover How What You Hate Can Help You Love

Chapter 4: Go from a Gay Boy to a Gay Man with Your Father

Chapter 5: Recognize the Difference Between Mommy Nearest, Mommy
Dearest, and Mommy Queerest

Chapter 6: Learn How to Disarm—Not Strong-arm—Your Partner in
Communication

Chapter 7: Know Your Sexual Shadow

Chapter 8: Understand the New Mixed Marriage: When Three’s a Crowd

Chapter 9: How to Call It Quits Without Being a Quitter

Chapter 10: Bring Your Own Shadow

By showing how to look closely at the deepest sources of your wants and needs, 10 SMART THINGS GAY MEN CAN DO TO FIND REAL LOVE will help you achieve the kind of lasting close relationships you deserve.

This workshop is for partnered and/or single gay men. While male couples can attend it is not designed for the couple. Both partners can work together in exercises but the focus will be on them individually.

Come to UNCOVER and DISCOVER your Sexual Shadow!
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ABOUT THE WORKSHOP:

We live in a sexually illiterate society. There is little to no permission to examine openly our sexuality in terms of orientation, behavior and fantasies. Most people, gay and straight alike, do not know if their sexual fantasies and/or sexual acts are healthy versus unhealthy. While gay men are more inclined to act out their sexual desires and fantasies more openly than their heterosexual counterparts, there still lies confusion as to what is positive and self-affirming and what is not.

There is also confusion about what is sex, what is love and what is intimacy. This workshop will explore the definitions of each of these and how to integrate them all together for gay men. Much of our culture as gay men, as well as for our heterosexual counterparts, are confused about how to make this integration. There is also confusion about how to have healthy sex, love and intimacy without having to have all of them combined.

This workshop will help clarify all of this.

ð How do you define sex?

ð What is healthy versus unhealthy sex?

ð Do you understand the secret logic of your sexual fantasies?

ð What is your sexual shadow?

ð Are you sexually addicted, compulsive or just have a large sexual appetite?

ð Do you carry sexual shame?

ð How do you feel about your body?

ð Do you want to improve your sex life?

ð Are you getting the love you want in your relationship?

ð Are you keeping the love you find when you think you found Mr. Right?

ð What is your definition of love?

ð What is your definition of intimacy?

ð What are the stages of love?

These are just some of the questions we will be examining at the upcoming workshop. The workshop will include guided imagery, experiential exercises, communication exercises and lectures.

We will explore sexual behavior and fantasies with understanding, compassion, and without judgment.

For more information about cost, times and registration go to Register

I am presenting these workshops for couples based on the best-selling book, "Getting The Love You Want: A Guide For Couples" by Dr. Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. This workshop is worth 6 months worth of work and time in couple's therapy. While not a therapy weekend, it is very psycho-educational and therapeutic. You will learn several effective communication exercises which start you in the right direction to work through hard conversations and resolve conflicts with your partner

This is not group therapy of any kind. Couples often worry that they will be asked to disclose personal information within their relationship. This is not true. The majority of the workshop is private for the couples in terms of what they are discussing. Often couples will come through the workshop and never say anything publicly about the inner workings of their relationship. There is no pressure or requirement for group sharing. The confidentiality and privacy of your relationship is assured unless you decide to disclose yourself at the workshop. This keeps the workshop safe and effective.

For more information about cost and times and/or to register click here register for this workshop

• lunch included along with morning bagels and fruit

For more information contact Wendy Appleton at 248-376-7325 or 248-542-6616 or email her at wendella49@aol.com.

For more information about my upcoming trainings and speaking engagements click on Trainings and Speaking Engagements

One of the books I based this chapter on was, "The Erotic Mind" by Jack Morin. I highly recommend this book to everyone interested in learning about their erotic intelligence. In other words, the positive meanings behind what sexually turns you on.

It is also a topic we explore at length at the Reclaiming the Man in the Mirror Workshop.

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Here is an exerpt from Chapter 7 of "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love:

Know Your Sexual Shadow

We all have a sexual shadow. What is your sexual shadow? How can you learn about and from your sexual shadows? Is it standing in the way of finding real love? Can knowing it help you find a partner? Yes, it can help and hinder relationships.

"Your peak erotic experiences and fantasies have coded information about you that can help you understand yourself better."

The easiest way to know if you’re in shadow is to consider what you most admire or dislike in others. So in sexual terms, that would equate to your peak erotic sexual interest. What sexual desires and fantasies do you most admire or dislike? Your peak erotic experiences and fantasies have coded information about you that can help you understand yourself better. It can even help you find the right partner for you, if you can decode the erotica of your desires.

There’s a saying that you can tell a lot about a person by knowing who his friends are. Well, if you understand your sexual fantasies and desires, you’ll learn a lot about yourself as a person. Sexual fantasies are not separate, but a result of your psychological makeup—a part of you, an extension of your psyche.

To continue click on gayhealth.com

To read the first book review of "10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Find Real Love" click here gaywired.com

"10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Lives" published in 2003 is in its 4th printing and continues to be a best-seller with Alyson publishing.

Upcoming Book signings:

Lambda Rising
Washington, DC
March 16, 2006 7PM

If you want to book a signing or workshop in your area please feel free to contact me at joekort@joekort.com or 248-399-7317.
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After you read my new book I would appreciate your written reviews on amazon.com. They help others when deciding whether or not to purchase the book.