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Gay and Lesbian Parenting

  • I Want Children But My Boyfriend Doesn't by Joe Kort, Ph.D. ©2014 All rights reserved.

    Dear Joe,

    My boyfriend and I have been together for six years and have discussed marriage, but recently we've disagreed over the prospect of raising children. I don't know what this means for us in the long-term. We're both in our 30s, and I'd pop the question tomorrow if it wasn't for the fact he's said he doesn't ever want children. He's great with kids, but he doesn't want the financial and physical strain that comes with them. I've always wanted a family, and the thought of possibly not having one was one of the hardest things for me to accept as a young gay guy growing up. Is this irreconcilable? I love him so much but it feels like if we stay together one of us is going to end up unhappy.

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  • Things to Consider When Working With Gay or Lesbian Parents: by Joe Kort, Ph.D. © All rights reserved.

    Gay and lesbian parents are always coming out. One of the situations a gay parent faces has to do with their own coming out process. A gay man or lesbian who has been out for many years will now have to begin coming out as a gay or lesbian parent.

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  • Everything Possible by Fred Small

    Here are the lyrics from the song Everything Possible , written by Fred Small in 1983 for the children of lesbians and gays. It is very well done and can be sung to any child. I wish someone had sung it to me!

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