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Coming Out

  • Troy, MI Mayor and Gay Parents--And Uncles All rights reserved

    Last month , the mayor of Troy, Michigan, Janice Daniels was held accountable for a homophobic statement she made on Facebook. She said, "I think I am going to throw away my I love New York carrying bag now that queers can get married there."

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  • No One Will Ever Love Me Dr. Kort writes for Attitude Magazine in the UK.

    Dr. Kort writes for Attitude  Magazine in the UK. Read this question and Dr. Kort's answer.

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  • Creating Gay Childhood Heroes How Tony Orlando and Dawn Saved My Life by Joe Kort, MSW ©2005. All rights reserved.

    When I was in middle school, I fell in love with a singing trio that protected me for the rest of my school years. Nowadays, I have to wonder how Tony Orlando and Dawn (TOAD) became such a strong interest of mine and why I was so obsessed with them—and I do mean obsessed—throughout my young school years.

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  • Dust Bunnies in Your Closet ©2005 by Joe Kort and Alyson Publications. All Rights Reserved.

    Recently, a high school in Troy, Michigan made the news when the Detroit area Lesbian and Gay Community Center created a sign depicting people from all walks of life, with the heading, “Gays and Lesbians are Everyday People.” Some parents wanted it taken down because it “promotes homosexuality.” Thankfully, the Troy school board is allowing it to stay up.

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  • Adolescence: Does Your Gay Age Match Your Chronological Age? ©2004 by Joe Kort, MSW. All rights reserved.

    Ex-gays love to point the finger at lesbian and gay "bad behavior," stating that acting out behavior such as promiscuity, being overly vocal about being gay, too much partying and too much chemical use exemplifies what gay life is all about. They further say this is why they became ex-gays to avoid living that type of lifestyle. However, what they are referring to is a stage of coming out and has little to nothing more to do with gay life than it does with heterosexual life.

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  • 18 Things to Remember Before You Come Out Adapted from a pamphlet found on The Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transsexual SIG of the National Capital Freenet, Ontario, Canada

    Coming out is a lifelong process. It is also a very brave and big decision. Here are some things to consider before coming out.

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  • I Read You Loud and Queer! by Joe Kort, MSW copyright 2004

    When you came out as gay or lesbian (or if you are currently in the process of coming out), how did you do it; as a Turtle or a Hailstorm?

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  • Out of the closet and into the streets Between the Lines Newspapers - June 1, 2003 © 2004 by Joe Kort. All rights reserved

    A while ago, a gay couple—I’ll call them Tony and Don—came to see me, because they were about to break up...

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  • Cass Model of Gay & Lesbian Identity Formation

    Coming Out is a life-long process of exploring one’s sexual orientation and Gay / Lesbian identity and sharing it with family, friends, co-workers and the world. COMING OUT is one of the most significant developmental processes in the lives of Gay and Lesbian people. Coming Out is short for the phrase “coming out of the closet.” Coming Out means recognizing, accepting, expressing and sharing ones’ sexual orientation with oneself and others.

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  • Why Clay Aiken’s Coming Out Matters © 2009 by Joe Kort. All rights reserved

    Before the 1980s, being openly gay in Hollywood made you a target of homophobia. You were shunned and considered to be unemployable and doomed to a life of loneliness, depression and isolation. So especially if you were a celebrity, you kept your sexual and romantic orientation to yourself. Most of your colleagues-including other gays and lesbians- respected your choice and preferred that you remain in the closet.

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