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"The question that I ask both partners is, "What is the content of the porn bringing up for each of you?” Both have given the porn a meaning, and I hold the value of that meaning in high regard for both. Her reaction to the porn often points to negative feelings and beliefs she may be carrying about herself. For him, the content of the porn may express parts of himself he may not be able to express nonsexually."- Joe Kort, Ph.D.
I even had one client come into my office and refer to himself as a “cashsexual.” Having cash put into his hand or his PayPal account or Google Wallet, as well as the exhibitionism and accolades he received, turned him on.- Joe Kort, Ph.D.